“…every single year, we’re a different person. I don’t think we’re the same person all our lives”
One of the greatest things about being human is our unique ability to reflect on our lives and make improvements where needed. This is how we can make who we were become who we are now and in the future become complely different people again.
If you stop for a second to analyse yourself, how different are you from the person you were say 5 years ago?
Personally I feel like I have grown into an almost unrecognisable version of myself. Five years ago Hannah was someone who was always trying to seek approval from herself and others. She was constantly trying to confirm whether she was ‘good enough’ for the world. I viewed my grades and external achievements as a direct reflection of my success as a person and because of this I was easily stressed. I feared failure and the uncertainty that came with not knowing what I was going to do with my life. Although this led me to do well in many aspects of my life and I was an overall happy person, I knew that I had potential which I had not lived up to.
Fast-forward 5 years and I am now someone who hardly gets stressed, embraces change and has a more positive and optimistic outlook on life (FYI the newer Hannah is much happier!). I understand that life is uncertain and that’s what makes it exciting. Now instead of focusing on trying to map out a clear path and getting stressed about what to do with my life, I have learnt that following passions and inspiraiton is key, even if it is a less guaranteed road to take. I realize that in life there are two routes you can take; you can either stumble into a life you never really wanted because you fear the misty unknown or you can stay positive and work hard towards achieving the life you have always dreamed of, the only thing stopping you is your own self-belief.
(On a side note, if you are unsure about what your passions are make sure you take time out to reflect on what really gets you going and what you enjoy spending your time and energy doing).
Ok so now for the interesting part, how did I make these changes? It was a combination of factors that included some of the following:
- I carefully observed the traits in others that I looked up to and tried to start mimicking them. Personally I admire people that are passionate and inspired by what they do, who care about making a positive contribtion to the world, who give things a go, are easy to relate to and extremely ambitious.
- I surrounded myself with people who possess those qualities .
- I wrote in a journal every now and then which helped me keep track of my thought patterns.
- I became aware of the way I talked to the most important person in my life, myself and challenged all the conceptions that I had created about what I could and couldn’t do.
If you have any traits you think are holding you back from reaching your potential, I challenge you to try some of the above pointers and start the process of outgrowing them so you can become the best, most happiest version of yourself.
Hannah Cleaver: lover of all things heath, fitness and wellbeing related. A former stressed out law student from New Zealand now a healthy life-style junkie.