Being Authentic

Authenticity. Being authentic. It’s a daily practise of letting go of who we think we should be and being who we really are. It’s about letting go of expectations and ideals and letting your true self, your inner goddess express her beautiful energy.

We live in a world that’s always trying to make us someone else, trying to make us an “ideal” or even “perfect”. Its constantly in our face- we are told we are not enough and we have to be more. But darling this is just a sales technique- you truly are perfect. Remember when we were little we didn’t label ourselves, we did what we wanted to do, we didn’t compare ourselves to others, we didn’t feel the need to judge out situation or others. Rather we just did what we felt was right and we loved being a soul in a body rather then a body with a soul. And we were so happy, we listened to our body, we were genuine, we felt our feelings, cried when we needed too and laughed when we were happy.

Being authentic is tough, it really is. Even I haven’t mastered it, it’s a daily commitment to live lovingly and wholeheartedly even your wrestling with shame and fear of not being good enough, and especially when the emotions of these become so overwhelming you don’t even want to feel it, you might even choose to numb it or “fill the void”. Choosing authenticity is not an easy choice. E.E. Cummings wrote, ‘To be nobody-but-yourself in a world which is doing its best night and day to make you everybody but yourself—means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight–and never stop fighting.’ Be authentic is not easy but it is so worth the gratitude, love and joy which follows when you love yourself so much that you just want to be YOU and No one else. Sacrificing who you are for the sake of what others think isn’t worth it. Dig deep, get real and be authentic. You’re worth it.

Stress is a common reaction to any situation, which makes us feel uncomfortable about the future. Whether that be a choice we have to make that will affect our future self, or maybe it will come in the form of a too do list of future chores. However one thing in common with all these stressors is that none of them allow you to be in the present moment. They all force you too think about the future.

Living in the moment, requires presence. Being in the here and the now and acknowledging all things happening inside your body and outside of you.

It is exhausting for your mind, body and soul to be constantly stressing about event, which are not even in your control. When you find your mind churning and concentrating on the future, just stop, take a breath and be here in this moment. Instead of letting your mind run in exhausting to-do list cycle, just breathe, and slowly bring yourself back into the moment.

Also be kind and compassionate towards yourself. When your body feels attacked due to self-judgment or pressures of external judgement, our bodies cortisol and adrenaline levels rise, which puts our bodily organs under more stress. So be self-compassionate.

Stop worrying about all the things you think you should be doing, procrastinating about the things you don’t want to be doing or picking on yourself for things that you think you should have done. Do the things that matter now, and dump or give the rest to your future self, and forget about it now.

At the end of your life, it wont matter how much you got done, how orderly and tidy your house was before guests came over or whether you got too all your morning gym classes. So don’t stress about these things. Let life flow. Everything happens for you, not to you. Take an opportunity now to take three deep belly breathes. Namaste beautiful xx

Cayla Bella: Yogi, Lover of all things nourishing to the body and soul, Dancer, Light-worker

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