I believe there are two important parts to gaining a positive mind and happy life. The first part is about changing your mind and your thought process.
I used to be the most negative Nancy around! My mum would be forever telling me to be happier and appreciative of what I have and would regularly say that “it’s not the end of the world, Laiken.”
If something didn’t go in my favour or anything slightly bad happened, I would get in this horrible mood and nothing could really get me out of it. I would sulk and whinge for ages. Sometimes I’d even cry. You know that saying “there’s no use of crying over spilt milk”? I believe I have cried over spilt milk before!
It’s not the end of the world. Nobody died or got hurt?! It’s not that bad.
You just have to learn to realise & deal with your emotions and how to find a positive in every situation.
For example, you had a bad day. Think of something good that happened in your day, something you ate, someone who made you smile? Or even think about what tomorrow will bring and how you will try make it better than today.
You had plans but they fell through? Think of another way to spend your time! Do something you love or don’t usually have time for, do your nails, exercise, bake, watch some funny videos on YouTube, see another friend or even call up your grandparents – I’m sure they’d love to hear from you!
Of course, when bad things happen you can be upset or angry, it’s fine! That’s natural. It’s just about not dwelling on the situation.
The second part is who and what you surround yourself with.
I believe it’s essential to surround yourself with people who are positive and ambitious. I know this can be hard, but even just following some inspirational Instagram accounts classes as having some positive vibes around and you can even make friends online by doing so. They don’t have to be in the same state or even country for you to be friends with them. I’ve made some friends myself through social media and I’m so grateful for that! It’s the best thing to connect with like-minded people, it’s different to any other relationship you have with someone.
It’s also important that if you have people in your life that don’t make you feel good about yourself or bring you negativity that you limit your time with them when possible and even cut them out if they’re not worth the company. I know it might sound mean doing that, like don’t get me wrong, no one is perfect but sometimes some people just aren’t worth the drama or stress. I’ve cut out friends myself because of this.
Now let’s talk about happiness. You always hear people say, and you more than likely will do this yourself – because I know I do, “If I just had this… I’d be happy”. It’s usually something superficial like a flat tummy, a thigh gap, a new car or something… The truth is, once or if, we achieve these goals we’ll probably have something else we want. So it’s awesome to have goals and things to work for, but your happiness can’t rely on them. You have to make the most of now. Appreciate your current situation and be thankful of what you do have, while working for what you want.
Finally, happiness is a frame of mind – not a destination. Change the way you think by gaining a positive outlook and surround yourself with the right people & you’ll find yourself becoming happier and feel more inspired.
It can even be helpful to every day start by thinking of something you are grateful for, and then in the afternoon think of something good that happened. Writing them down daily is also a good idea as when you are feeling down you could have a reread of some positive thoughts.
It won’t happen overnight, it all takes time and practice! Be persistent and aware of your thoughts and what to do with them.
My name is Laiken and I’m from Adelaide, South Australia. I have a passion for health, food, fitness, veganism & living a positive life. I’ve overcome my negative mindset that I used to have and fixed my highly processed diet a had a few years ago. I believe that what we eat has a large affect on our mental, physical & internal health. Everything you eat impacts your body in some way so be sure to fuel your body with all the plant-based goodness you can. Eat rainbows & be kind to yourself and others.